Wedding Stress & Resolutions

So, weddings are stressful for everyone involved.  I know it is stressful on the vendors to try to give the bride and groom a magical day.  I know that it can be stressful on family and friends to travel in support of the bride and groom on the big day.  Planning the event is stressful on the bride and groom.  All I know is that issues have arisen in the last few weeks leading up that have stressed me out to no end, but we manage to get through them and I have people who helped make things work.

I know you're not supposed to let yourself get so stressed out, but that is part of who I am.  So, in response to wedding stress and sleep deprivation due to wedding stress, I'd like to take the time out to highlight all of the craziness going on in recent weeks.

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Issue:  My obsession with chocolate cake... and truffles (curse you little league fundraiser!). i.e. the dress won't fit.

Resolution:  Magic wand waving alterations team at Camille's of Wilmington who let all of the many layers of my dress out so that I could actually put it on.

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Issue:  Day-of hair and makeup services, timing, contract, and offerings.  There was a miscommunication about how many people would be getting hair and makeup done.  Job changes and moving made it so that folks who originally were getting hair and makeup could no longer do so.

Resolution:  Without hitting me with penalties or contract issues, the owner of Magnolia Jane was kind enough to allow us to remove a few girls from the list at the last minute due to extenuating circumstances.

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Issue:  One of our best friends just found out they can't come.  This person is so much friend, they're family.  They stressed themselves out about the fact that they can't make it.

Resolution:  We could never cause anyone strain over a wedding.  Will we miss them?  Of course, but we refuse have anyone suffer for our wedding.  Did someone say Video Call?  Modern technology at its finest!  We're going to set up a video call so that our friend can virtually attend the ceremony.

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Issue:  Our DJ is no longer available to DJ, and he found this out four days before the wedding!  There is no time to book a new DJ, not during peak wedding season!

Resolution:  He called every DJ friend he had and found someone to come in and act as backup DJ.  I may not have slept at all last night, but at least that is resolved now.

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Issue:  Munchkin has summer camp all week, but we'll need to be at the Plantation Friday all day.

Resolution:  Munchkin's mom is going to pick him up from camp and drive him out to us at the plantation after camp ends.

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Additionally, it is important to keep grounded.  I hate to use the statement "it's just a wedding" because a wedding is such a special occasion, but it is truly just a wedding.  It isn't life or death.  When I think about the loved ones that are no longer with us, who won't be there, it puts things into perspective for me and makes me remember how lucky I am to have so many of my family there to stand up with us as we say our vows.  It will go on, and regardless of the rediculous expectations we put on ourselves, everyone will have a good time.